Five Minute Friday – Change

August 31, 2012Karen Courcy

Welcome to five minute Friday to where us bloggers where we are given a word prompt and write for just 5 minutes simply for the joy of writing.

No editing or backtracking necessary. No need to be perfect. Just words freely flowing from my heart to yours.

Today’s Five minute Friday word is “Change”


I have no idea how Lisa picks the words every week, but each week when I open the 5 minute Friday website at midnight, it’s always a word about something I am going through!

I was excited to see the word “change” because I am going through so many changes in my life, in my healing, on this journey, and most importantly how I see things.

My therapist said something to me a couple of weeks ago about “change”. We were talking about a certain situation that has not changed, and he said to me in his very gentle and caring way, took my hand, and said “sometimes we have to make the change, because someone else won’t”.

Those words that he spoke to me changed my whole outlook on how I see things, it refocused how I view this, and I did make the change – a HUGE change.

It’s incredibly hard to make a change when it’s not about ME doing anything wrong, it’s about someone else – but he made me realize that sometimes we need to change to move away from something or in this case “someone” who won’t, and I did that, and I feel so free from this now.

The change was knowing that I have empowerment over the weak, and not allowing it to overcome me anymore. I am not the one stuck – I am moving on and moving on in a beautiful way.

Not only have I made changes in this certain situation, but I have also made changes in my life physically.

I am back to working out with a trainer  3 days a week, and have been now for about 14 days now. It’s painful, it’s hard work, but I am getting fit and feeling absolutely wonderful! I am eating clean and healthy, and I dont think I have felt this great in a long time.

Change has also been happening in my healing – My therapist and I have this new bond that I never really felt before in my 5+ years of working through my healing, and it has opened me up to really be OPEN with no fear, none at all. I feel I can get to the core of anything and feel safe!

I have come to realize a different side to my healing in this chaos of a year I have had, and it has open up more trust, connection, care, and support in therapy that I never allowed myself to feel before, or think I was worth – today I know different.

I believe that this new found part in my healing in therapy, is what also got me to get back into weight lifting. It gave me a new sense of self worth – and I thank my therapist for helping me to open that door by ONE WORD “change” ..

It’s not about ME – it’s about someone else, but I am willing to make the change for me, even though it’s not my change to make.


This was more than 5 minutes, but today I made a change and made it 10 🙂


  • Andrea

    August 31, 2012 at 3:09 PM

    So courageous a post!
    I am doing the same … with a sponsor and am working on healing my body as well … a slow-carb diet to begin …
    I was so taken with your therapists words, “sometimes we have to make the change, because someone else won’t” . I feel a blog post of my own will stem from that; I hope you don’t mind, I will link the post here, should it be written.
    I am so going through that with a few people, and while my sponsor didn’t say those exact words she did say “this is not yours” … so I change how I react or respond, not an easy task!
    I’m so happy I stopped by for the 5MF!

    1. Karen Courcy

      August 31, 2012 at 5:07 PM

      Hi Andrea… I am glad that my post helped! It was one of those things where my therapist and I scratched our heads for a long time around something, and it all came to change.. changing how it effected me, change how to see it, change how to move away from it, change how to perceive it.. at first I was defensive – “why should I change if I have been told time and time again it wasn’t about me” . until I realized and he made me realize something completely different .. and it worked.. it has changed MANY things like I stated in my blog.

      Today in session we talked more about it, and it was a great great session! and the more and more we talk about it and work with it, the more sense it makes, and it feels good, it’s empowering not to be stuck!

      1. Andrea

        September 1, 2012 at 12:47 AM

        I agree. Like I said I am doing quite the same therapeutic workout with my sponsor. I am actually almost done with a workshop we are doing called “love is a choice”.
        It truly is amazing how a simple phrase can do such a profound work in a soul … with just a change of the view.
        I am overjoyed to hear that you are being empowered by the work you are doing.
        I’d like for you to visit my tumblr account … I created a photo with that phrase … you may use it as your own, as you are the inspiration.

        Go here:

      2. Karen Courcy

        September 1, 2012 at 12:56 AM

        Hi Andrea… I tried to access the link you gave me and it said access denied?? I wanna see … now you have me all excited 🙂

        Thank you again for your responses.. it looks like we have a lot in common!

      3. Andrea

        September 1, 2012 at 4:28 PM

        Ok … are you on tumblr? or Facebook? The photo can be accessed both ways … but let me see … maybe you can get there with this link … it’s my photography page.

  • Andrea

    September 1, 2012 at 4:29 PM

    I just sent you a friend request on FB … Andrea O’Donnell Hutchinson. 🙂

  • Karen Courcy

    September 1, 2012 at 5:47 PM

    Andrea… I LOVE IT!!!! I sent it to Andy, I am sure he will find that a GOD like thing to see that from someone who never knew me before.. that is awesome 🙂 and thank you for adding me on facebook..

  • Andrea

    September 1, 2012 at 6:21 PM

    We seem to have a lot in common. My sponsor also finds that these types of encounters are “A God thing”, as she like to put it … of course I am well aware that God puts us together when it is time.

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