being ok with what is here!

May 8, 2015Karen Courcy

25d5bb7855515b887cfbfb44d1f07ba8Today in session I really opened up about being okay and accepting for where I am in this journey… it was a great session with a lot of realization!

I can sit here and think ahead and wonder “where would I be today had I not gone through a particular hard situation a few years ago that really threw me into a hard isolated emotional place by past triggers?

I can sit here and wonder about how things would be today if things were different from the past to the obstacles I have faced along the way.

I can sit here and wonder all the “what if’s” or feelings of shame and guilt for still being in and out of hard places.

I can sit with all those wonderment’s, but then I ask myself “where do those wonderment’s take me? The only place it takes me is out of the here and now, and if I pay attention too much to what if or I wonder, I miss what is happening right here, right now.

My therapist and I talked this morning about healing happening in THIS very moment that fills in the holes of “what if’s”.  I am not the same person I was 8 years ago when I first began therapy. I am not even the same person I was a year ago. Growing with each healing step, I am a new person going forward every day.

YES I have had a very hard year and a half with being isolated emotionally .. but the thing is, each day I am taking steps out of that, and although sometimes I can’t always see those steps, I certainly won’t see them if I look into the “WHY’S” or “WHAT IF’S” .. it’s all about what I can do in THIS moment, what my healing process is doing in THIS moment!

My therapist always says to me “what do we have the most control over in THIS moment? his answer to that is always “we can talk about anything” .. and that is what I am doing and focusing on – being in this moment and talking about this moment for what it is.

YES I may have been in a totally different place today had 3 years ago not happened in my healing that triggered me into an emotional set back.. I can sit and cry about it .. but do I want to cry about it because it happened, or should I cry about it because it DID happen and it hurts and that’s why I am crying. There is a difference.

I can’t change what happened to me as a child, but I can sure talk about how it makes me feel some days and let that be the healing process of what heals those painful wounds, not trying to wish it away or wish it different.

Today in therapy I REALLY came to a place where I am just ready to accept where I am. Accept that I am still in this healing process in therapy, and its GOOD and its GOOD WORK and its HEALING work! I can use that as my hope that on the other side of this is the life I want to live and be in… in fact, I am already there, I just need to learn how to be here.

I left session this morning just feeling so hopeful .. and I am grateful for having such a wonderful therapist who has walked with me through all these WHAT IF’S .. but more importantly he has walked with me on this path of the HERE and NOW and that is what matters most.. THAT is where the healing happens ..

We may not always understand why we are where we are.. we may not always understand our path, we may not always understand why things happen the way they do, or have all the answers in front of us, but if we sit and try to figure that all out, we miss what is right in front of us…. and that is “what we have control over in this moment to make us as happy as we can be” and still heal – what has, and what did.

8 Comments

  • Rachel

    May 9, 2015 at 12:07 PM

    I love what you write here. Accepting where we are now really is the way we will accept everything else. Such a profound, yet simple concept. And very cool you had one of those “I got it!” sessions, well done!

    1. KarenBeth

      May 9, 2015 at 1:56 PM

      thanks Rachel and thank you for coming to my blog 🙂

  • Barbie

    May 10, 2015 at 11:30 PM

    So good. I can exert so much energy focused on why things are the way they are, and I completely miss the blessings in this moment. Thanks for sharing!

  • Jane A. Weiss, LCSW

    May 11, 2015 at 8:20 PM

    Thank you for sharing your personal journey of self-inquiry. I hope other’s notice the invaluableness of the therapy experience through your contemplations!
    …and thank you for your sweet, personal note to me! 🙂

  • Sacha

    May 11, 2015 at 9:01 PM

    truly love this will be sharing on my Facebook page

  • Amanda Ripsam (@AmandaRipsam)

    May 11, 2015 at 11:11 PM

    Beautifully written, I have also been in therapy for years and it really does help. visiting from blog roll Mondays 🙂

  • Sarah

    May 12, 2015 at 2:54 AM

    “What do we have the most control over in THIS moment?”

    This is gold, as far as intentional living.

    Great post.

  • Hannah

    May 12, 2015 at 6:44 AM

    What a lovely way to promote the appreciation for the “here and now” in life! It goes by so fast with so many great moments to treasure yet we are all guilty of letting those grey, murky bad times steal the limelight of the best moments at times. Keep going! You’re an inspiration! X

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