31 Days { Day 18 } ???? being open and vulnerable

October 18, 2015Karen Courcy

anais-nins-quotes-4As I sit here tonight, I am anticipating my therapy session tomorrow morning, which I don’t normally do as I let it just flow into the morning!

– tonight I sit with vulnerability as the past couple of sessions have been all about “being open and vulnerable; talking about how I feel no matter what it is”.

and… that has been big and scary – yet healing and relieving!

Being in therapy for 8 years now you would think I would have this routine down pat! You would think the anticipation of hard work in therapy would be as easy as a snap of a finger … but the truth is, when it comes to your true emotions and your true feelings that need a space to be felt and heard, you never get used to that – you only accept it more.

My therapist is so good at helping me to talk about things that reside within – even if he has to do some digging!

The past couple of weeks I have felt a lot of emotions and feelings right at the surface! I have felt a lot of pent up anger and bitterness, and they need a place to land besides within me – eating ME up.

It’s been a long time since I have felt these kind of emotions being surfaced, but the thing is, I have learned to see these feelings as “emotions” and not “emergencies”. Something inside of me is telling me “hey, you need to feel, and you have a safe space to talk about those feelings”

and I have learned to trust it.

Like the quote above says:

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.

It hurts more to keep these thoughts and feelings in, than it is to let them out and let them be heard and known.

I am anticipating tomorrow because we left off Friday with a really big session and we both agreed that I would let him HOLD the hardness of my feelings so I could go and have a peaceful weekend! Sometimes that works, but others times I just don’t know how to let someone else hold the hardness I feel inside.

This weekend, I let him hold onto my feelings and thoughts I began talking about in session Friday, and maybe that is why I am feeling more vulnerable – I have my true feelings and thoughts awaiting for me, but the good thing is, I have support to walk me back into it.

So, as I walk into the week of my therapy sessions this week, I will remind myself that, these feelings that are here, they don’t belong to reside in me, they deserve a place to land where they are heard, and seen and supported.

So I keep healing on . . . . one day, one session, at a time!


  • Barbie

    October 19, 2015 at 1:06 AM

    I am proud of you, for continuing to pursue your healing. The process can be very painful at times, but I know that God will bring beauty from the ashes. Hugs!

  • Barbara

    October 19, 2015 at 11:58 AM

    And one day, one session at a time is what will keep your healing coming, slowly but surely, as it needs to come! You are brave to share the hardness of your feelings with your therapist; and even more so to share with us, your readers, your friends!

    Thank you for opening your heart to us! Hang in there…love and prayers and hugs!

  • Cat

    October 19, 2015 at 1:58 PM

    You’re doing great… I understand how tough it is to face these emotions in therapy. Your posts strikes a chord today. Hope your session went well

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