from darkness to light

December 29, 2012Karen Courcy

I woke up this morning and decided to go to Saturday morning Mass. I go on Sunday’s, but something was also pushing me to go this morning – so I went.

I love those moments where you show up somewhere and there is a message to be told; something to be learned; something to be understood.

Father Paul said “Have you ever been in the dark for a long amount of time and the moment you step out into the light you have to squint your eyes because its so painful to look into the light? That is what coming out of the darkness feels like. It’s painful, it hurts, you want to run back into the darkness where no one can see you; where you sometimes feel the most comfortable. But then you allow yourself to embrace the light, it gets easier to open your eyes.”

This reminds me so much of therapy and my healing; especially in the beginning of my journey years ago. I felt as if I was kicked down and beat up emotionally after leaving a therapy session and thought to myself at times “why do I show up?” “why would I want to continue showing up to a place where it’s painful to walk into the light?” .. the answer is clear – because the light is where the healing begins, not in the darkness – I feel it every day.

As I sat there listening to the Homily that Father Paul was giving, I knew right away that this was going to be something I would write about in my blog.

Was it a message from God? I truly believe God gives us messages to hear. I believe in my heart that this was a reminder that even though sometimes the light is painful, the dark is far more painful than the light will ever be.

Father Paul said “sometimes you just have to keep on pushing yourself through the pain of the light, and eventually your vision will become clear” .. I got chills when I heard this because it’s rings so true to what the past 6 years have been for me; finding the light from darkness.

I have spent my whole childhood in the dark lonely closet. The light was risky, it was scary and painful so I chose to sit in the dark closet to hide form the abusers. Eventually God pulled me out of that darkness and gave me light, and through my healing I am taking steps into that light every single day that I show up, but I need to keep showing up no matter how hard or easy it is.

My therapist said to me in an email last night “The most loving thing you can do for you and for your past is to keep moving forward and accepting the love, the care, and the support!” Living life that God has created for you is the best way to honor you and your healing“.

Showing up is walking into the light no matter how painful at times. It’s honoring me, and honoring me is healing me. It’s allowing God to heal me. Its allowing my support to help heal me and that is where the light is!

This is the process I have been taking for years in my healing – walking out of the dark, into light both painful yet healing. Squinting my eyes to the hard, but then slowly removing my hands to see what is safe around me.

I came home from Mass and shared with my husband the homily and my talk with Father Paul and how deep that was for me – I was basically lit up from the great message and conversation. I LOVE those moments!

I am so thankful that I showed up for Saturday morning Mass, because it reminded me of where I am, where I have been, and where I know I want to be.


  • Hanna D

    December 29, 2012 at 11:27 PM

    Karen!! I have been on Christmas Vacation and I am just now catching up with your blogs, and what a way to come back to reading this beautiful post.

    This is so true! I tell many of my clients that healing is coming out of the dark, and into something empowering.

    I love this post, and I am so glad that you showed up to Mass this morning. I myself love those epiphany’s that show up in a pull within.

    off to read the rest of your blogs 🙂 Have a great New Years


    1. Karen Courcy

      December 30, 2012 at 12:45 PM

      Thank you Hanna and it’s great to see you back 🙂 … I appreciate your kind words and support as always 🙂

  • Leslie Neshama

    December 30, 2012 at 6:14 AM

    This is a stunning blog entry, Karen, and I thank you for it. So courageous!

    Your thoughts lead me to re-consider how much time I spend in the dark.

    There is a world of light out there, and I shun it – time after time.

    Father Paul’s church homily helps me to be kind to myself, and to remember that once a person has been in the darkness for a long time, it is almost unavoidable that moving into the light will hurt.

    But he reminds us that we will adjust to the light – and that the pain does not last forever………………….

    I am so grateful.
    I am scared, but I am willing to open my eyes, and my spirit.

    Thanks, Karen, from my heart.

    1. Karen Courcy

      December 30, 2012 at 12:47 PM

      Leslie … one key word that you said is the most true “But he reminds us that we will adjust to the light – and that the pain does not last forever”

      That is SO true.. it doesn’t last forever.

      My therapist once used CANCER as a term of healing. He said “coming to Therapy is like chemo therapy.. you kill your insides by letting the bad out, you feel like crap during the process, but as you clean yourself out of the bad toxins inside, you become healed and clean of that.. it takes times, and it hurts at first, but as you move in and through it, you heal”.

      I am so glad that you are moving out of the dark and into the light.. into the light with people who support you 🙂

  • Gel

    December 30, 2012 at 11:46 PM

    This post makes me think of there being a difference between pain that is healing, or part of a healing process and pain that is from getting re injured……how to tell the difference…..I have work to do on understanding the difference. My reflex is that if it hurts then it must be wrong somehow. Reflexes aren’t always correct.

    It’s good to see that you are getting the messages you need and running with it.


    1. Karen Courcy

      December 31, 2012 at 12:00 AM

      Gel .. I can see how the 2 could be mixed up. This is where you have to trust your gut, your intuition. This is where connection is most important to remind you that you are safe, and the pain you feel is healing, not harmful. I so get what you mean though… very good point .. trust your heart 🙂

  • Leslie Neshama

    December 31, 2012 at 4:41 AM

    I feel so blessed to have met you, Karen.

    The treatment we seek – to find our Wholeness *is* painful but all of life is also joyous. It is as if the ebb and flow of It All teaches us how to ride the waves.

    I have been in so much pain most of my life, that my gratitude for my present life is unspeakable.

    I appreciate your therapist’s analogy to chemotherapy.

    And perhaps I can add the idea of birth to this discussion.

    I am giving birth to My Self. There is pain, but oh what joy to finally have me living and growing.

    Bless you, Karen, and all who come here to read and to heal and to share.


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