“accept the thing you cannot change”

February 19, 2015Karen Courcy

b917bc60fa0d3bc256e7fd86c0b99f04*I am also using this for the Five Minute Friday word OPEN as well as my Tuesday at Ten Link Up*

While it’s not always easy, sometimes the healing can be found in true acceptance of what is here – no matter what it is, or how it makes us feel, – its here because it needs to be here!

That has been a hard lesson to learn over the years. I could never understand why I can’t change something and the way it feels – especially emotions.

The path that I have been on the past month or so still continues to move forward and healing continues to happen – the hardest part? accepting how it feels.

Sometimes if you allow yourself to be open to whatever comes next, you can accept what is here and what is to be.

Emotions showed up big again the other night. I found myself crying to the point of not being able to breathe . . . feelings about my moms passing, feelings about the sadness I had for myself moving out and away from this isolation I have been in, I was sad and it hurt and yet at the same time, I just accepted it as “feelings that need to be heard and felt”.

That old saying “you can’t heal what you don’t feel” . . I never believed in that before, I think I am beginning to believe that.

These emotions that have been showing up lately mean something, and I am trying to accept them as being information; not hopeless never ending feelings that just feel bad.

My therapist and I have been talking about this a lot in our work, and the one thing that really makes sense in all this is, when we are in isolation physical from the work like I have been in the past year, emotions also get trapped inside the isolation, so my therapist said to me that even the emotions showing up are feelings finding their way out to be felt, heard, honored, and something to understand to help taking the steps continued forward.

I agree with him, but in the midst of emotions its hard to see it that way.

My eating has also been in isolation this past year.. I am slowly beginning to eat more, which oddly also brought up emotions the other day. I guess it all works together like a healing circle, and my hope is, eventually I will move out and away from what the isolation has been for me in all ways – emotionally, physically, and even spiritually.

All those things were effected in this hard 2 years that had passed – but my hope is, with the acceptance comes a greater healing.

It’s amazing what a little acceptance can do. . . it feeds the healing process on a whole new level.


  • Romi

    February 19, 2015 at 8:30 PM

    It is not always easy for me to ‘accept the things I cannot change’, but it is not until I accept them that true healing starts.

    I’ve been pondering on the prompt for ‘Tuesday at Ten’ every week, but somehow, I haven’t written about them for several weeks… I’m still wondering what I could write about ‘acceptance.’ Even though I may be ‘invisible’, I’m still taking part in this blog hop.

    1. KarenBeth

      February 19, 2015 at 11:16 PM

      what always helps me is, I sometimes look up the word in google and look at the images and grab ideas from that.. it tends to help sometimes …

  • Mary Geisen

    February 19, 2015 at 11:18 PM

    I absolutely get this! The emotions, the feels, the isolation-all of it. My mom passed a little over a year ago and the healing that needs to take place comes with the acceptance that God is allowed to enter and complete His work in me. Blessed you shared this at #FMF

  • Anita Ojeda

    February 19, 2015 at 11:30 PM

    May God continue to help you as you open up and feel your emotions and move out of isolation. I’m a ‘stuffer’ and am learning to deal with emotions as they come up rather than try to ignore them and stuff them. I’m so glad we don’t have to journey alone!

  • Donna Stone

    February 20, 2015 at 12:13 AM

    Yes, accepting things is an important step in healing. May God bless you on your journey.

  • karrileea

    February 20, 2015 at 12:31 AM

    Oh yes… I love this, Karen… especially that last line! “It’s amazing what a little acceptance can do. . . it feeds the healing process on a whole new level.” Amen!

    1. KarenBeth

      February 22, 2015 at 9:28 PM

      thank you .. thank you for stopping by my blog 🙂

  • Tiffany @ simplyforone

    February 20, 2015 at 5:05 PM

    Your words are beautiful and heartfelt, Karen Beth. I’m a “feeler” too. Faith reigns, but I feel first – deep and long and wide. So I totally relate to how daunting it can be to get swept away in those emotions, more so to accept them. I’ve come to rest in the fact that it’s how God made me and He just doesn’t make mistakes. Blessing to you – you have a lovely home here and I’m so glad I swung by from FMF. 🙂

    1. KarenBeth

      February 22, 2015 at 9:07 PM

      HI!!! I am so glad that you found my blog as well .. thank you for stopping by … check out my Tuesday at Ten link up that I run every Tuesday for a week… would love to have you a part of it … thanks again for your lovely comment..

      Here is a link to my link up ..

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