change happens in the mess!

When I saw this cover of a new book written by Jeff Goins, I was in awe, and I had a bit of chills going on.

“Change always happens when you come down from the clouds and deal with the messiness of life”

I cannot wait to get my hands on this book! Jeff Goins is someone I have come to know and learn from, and I love the way he writes and articulates life (personally and as a writer)

I cannot tell you how much truth is in this quote. I have learned so much from the messiness of life called healing, and on the outside of healing.

One of the messiest parts of my life was when I became addicted to pain pills to cover pain that I was unveiling. When I detoxed off of the pain meds and got clean from it, it was then I realized what a mess I left behind, and how much I could learn from it.

When I have gone through trials and errors in my life, I used those moments as “lessons learned” and ways to gain strength from it and to build a better foundation around something so weak.

I have said it time and time again in on this blog “I gain strength when I am down”. It almost seems impossible to believe, but when things are hard and down for me, that is when I am gaining my most strength.

Like the quote says “Change always happens when you come down from clouds and deal with the messiness of life”. It’s the contrast of life .. good from bad, light from dark, hard to easy, easy to hard, joyful, and sadness!

I would have to say in my situation right now, I have gained the most strength in the many trivial things that have happened this year – I know it’s changed a whole new way I work in therapy, and the bond and relationship between my therapist and I – it’s because of the messiness did it bring out the answers in MANY things, and create a new kind of trust and connection.

The way I am at home as a mom and a wife and a friend, it has all changed because I have learned some things I never knew about myself before, and it’s called “dealing with the messiness of life”.

My whole childhood was about “covering up the truth” instead of “facing it”. I never knew how to face anything in my life before therapy. I took what was in front of me no matter how bad it made me feel…. today learn to work with what is in front of me – joy or messiness, and the result is always connecting and healing for me.

Thank you Jeff Goins for this wonderful quote – I absolutely LOVE IT, and cannot wait to get my eyes in this book!

So when you are in the messiness of life, things change – sometimes it’s for the good and sometimes not so good, but in the end its what you do with that change that matters.