31 days of reflection {day 18} wounds that heal

37125bdadddb7697e648a41a82c8e094We all have been wounded at one time or another in our lives.

Whether it was by another person, or by a situation to which we had no control over the woundedness done to us.

Everyone has felt hurt by something or someone in their life. Some have deep wounds that are so deep and painful that it takes us away from who we really are within.

I have many many wounds; wounds that began as early as a child, a child as little as 4 years old to be honest.

I have been hurt, I have been wounded, I have been abused and my wounds are both physical seen, and emotionally unseen. I have a lot of painful wounds.

I have so many wounds that are in the process of healing every day – it’s painful and raw and sometimes unbearable – but it’s healing. Every day these wounds are healing.

I love the quote “the wound is the place where the light enters you” . . . I believe in that quote, I believe light shines in the wounds that bind us. I believe every wound has a chance of healing, we just need to let the light in.

Sadly, no matter how much healing happens through light that enters us, wounds are never forgotten. Wounds heal so that we can manage what they have done to us – but they never go away. Whether its an open wound or a scar, its always going to be there – but its about how we see it – changes us.

Sadly, we will always be reminded of what the healed wounds mean, and even sometimes we may have those same feelings again and again, but each time the wound heals stronger and stronger, and it gets a little easier with each time we go back and heal that wound again.

A part of my healing journey has been about just that; healing wounds as many times as its needed until it hurts less and lessΒ  – until it shows me what I need to know.

Each time I go back to an old wound, I learn something else about that wound that needed a little more healing, and I am learning that more and more I have the courage to face the wounds I thought were healed.

Much to my surprise, only through the healing do we let the wound be seen even more.

It’s a process … a process called healing.

I have noticed something huge in the past couple of months … the wounds I look back on that I faced years ago, months ago, are getting easier and easier to face! I look into the wound a little differently and it hurts, but somehow its easier to heal and be with.

I finally understand the process of healing – its not to be rushed, it’s to be honored.

14 comments

  1. Karen, oh wow, you have touched my heart and soul in this post. I have struggled a long long time around my wounds and you really helped me to make sense of what I am going through.

    Thank you so much for shedding light on something I needed to read. I have wounds as well, and sometimes I wonder if they will ever hear. You gave me hope.

    1. Sarah .. well thank you for your comment and connection to my blog. I am so glad that this blog helped you to see some things you needed to work through. If you ever want to talk, let me know. I am always up for a connection with another around this.

      Thank you again and I am in awe of your compliment on my writing around this. Thank you

  2. First off I love your blog! You’ve got a really good thing going on here! Second, I love how you are actively pursuing healing. So many people choose to let the wounds fester forever. They do not realize that healing is a choice and that choice brings freedom! Blessings to you!

    1. Hi Heather… thank you for your kind words! that means a lot to me :) I write a lot about my healing and sometimes it’s vulnerable and sometimes it just comes natural.. thank you so much for reaching out .. I hope to see you more :)

  3. “The wound is where the light enters you” So Powerful, I will not forget that thought. Also, I would say wounds can become scars. A reminder of what was, never forgotten but thankfully not painful anymore. Blessings on your journey.

  4. Thank you for this. My heart is full of scars from the constant hurt I have suffered through my 28 years. But I am healing slowly, we all heal in different ways and at different times. We just need to allow ourselves enough time to do so. C

    1. Hi Charlotte .. I am sorry about your scars and wounds, but your not alone. I write a lot about my healing and your more than welcome to connect and lean in and even email me if you would like. I am glad you stopped by and commented on this blog. Glad you came by today :) thank you for connecting.

  5. I was hurt by someone a few years ago and it has been something I have continually gone back to. I thought in order to forgive I had to forget, but this helps bring clarity. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Hi . . . there is something that my therapist has always told me and that is “you can go back to anything that you feel hurts and talk about it as many times as you need to, because each time you do that, it heals in different ways”. I have come to learn that, it doesn’t take it away, it just gives it less power over how we feel about it. It heals how we react to it and how it hurts us, but it doesn’t make the wound ever go away.. in fact, it makes us stronger believe it or not.

      Thank you for sharing and connecting with me around this.. I understand about going back to something that has hurt you, I am still going through it, but its getting easier and easier :)

  6. Your post brought to mind a quote from the book “Little Bee” – β€œWe must see all scars as beauty. Okay? This will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means, ‘I survived’.”

    Prayers for you as you embrace and deal with the wounds, the scars, and as you heal! Hugs!

    1. WOW!!! that just took my breath away! I LOVE that quote.. I am going to write that in my hope book.. thank you for sharing that with me. Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and connecting … :)

    1. YES!!! you are SO right … I agree.. every wound is different, every wound has a different meaning and a different healing process.. thank you for that reminder!

      Thank you for stopping by my blog … :)

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